Pastor, Chris Oyakhilome who is the founding president of
Believers Loveworld Incorporated, also known as Christ Embassy, has
posted a very important message on his social media page.
Topic: Who is a HUSBAND and What is His Role? - By Pastor Chris Oyakhilome PhD
Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.
The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact
that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They
believe they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they
will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy
people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their
fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t
know who a man is, they think he is another woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and
because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him.
You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is
where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of
man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his
authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1
Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority,
you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the
kingdom of God.
When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a
rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are
not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created
Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked
over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman
because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.
Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man
to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big
difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make
him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special
advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility
so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is
understood in every home then you won’t have problems.
I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the
Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has
had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had
one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your
husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you
don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of
an older sister.
A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a
good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with
him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the
world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave
you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love.
It’s a place of excellence.
Every wise person listens to wise voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely.
Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out
of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over
him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart.
A wise woman will always be an influence to her husband, the
foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him mad, make him angry
and when you make him angry, you will be the victim. Learn to listen to
your husband, practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it
because that is where your beauty is.
Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why you
are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair
style. Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is.
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-Excerpts from Pastor Chris’ teaching posted on his Facebook page - ChristEmbassy.org Online Mission
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